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The Queer Guide

TRAUMA THERAPIST . TRAINER . AUTHOR

Trauma-informed care for the parts of the story we do not say out loud.

I am Brooksi Bottari, a licensed mental health counselor and certified expert trauma professional. For more than a decade I have worked with survivors of sexual trauma, adults with ADHD, Veterans, and the LGBTQ+ community, and I train other practitioners to do this work without burning out. My first book, The Queer Guide to Going No Contact, is on the way.

The work in one breath

My work is about what happens after harm: how we carry it, how we set it down, and how we decide who gets access to us. That happens in the therapy room, in training rooms, and on the page

Trauma Alchemy Academy is where the clinical work and the teaching live. This site is where the writing does.

What I do

Three places this work happens

01

Therapy

Individual work with survivors of sexual trauma, adults navigating ADHD, Veterans, and LGBTQ+ clients. I am a certified Rapid Resolution Therapy practitioner and a sound healing therapist, and I work in a way that is direct, collaborative, and paced by you.

02

Training and Speaking

Conference talks and staff trainings on compassion fatigue, team resilience, and trauma-exposed work. I have trained hospital staff, first responders, and hundreds of practitioners working with female Veterans and on SOGIE.

03

Writing

 Essays and a forthcoming book, The Queer Guide to Going No Contact, about    estrangement, boundaries, grief, and the families we build instead.

SPEAKING AND TRAINING

Bring trauma-informed depth to your conference, hospital, or team.

 I speak and train on the parts of this work that wear people down:   compassion fatigue, secondary trauma, and building teams that can stay in trauma-exposed roles without losing themselves. Sessions are practical, candid, and shaped for the people in the room.

About

A trauma therapist who trains other therapists, and writes about the rest.

I hold certifications in Rapid Resolution Therapy, compassion fatigue train-the-trainer, and sound healing from the Globe Institute, plus a Master’s degree. Ten years in, I write because there is a lot the training manuals leave out.

“We are not here to fix ourselves. We are here to know ourselves well enough to choose.”

Work in progress

The Queer Guide to Going No Contact

Coming soon

My first book is about one of the hardest decisions a person can make: stepping away from family. It is a queer, trauma-informed look at estrangement, boundaries, grief, and building a family on your own terms.  

Writing

Notes, essays, and reflections.

I publish essays on trauma, estrangement, neurodivergence, and queer life. A few are collected here; the rest live on Substack.

Psychology

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A short description of the piece will appear here once it is published.

Culture

Reflection title goes here

A short description of the piece will appear here once it is published.

The Writing Life

New writing coming soon

Subscribe on Substack to read new essays as they are published.

An idea I keep returning to

Trauma work is not about going back to who you were before. It is about deciding who you are now.

From an essay in progress.

Stay close to the work

Where to follow along

The newsletter is the best place to read new essays and hear about the book. No noise, no funnels: just the writing, when it is ready.

Let us start a conversation.

Whether you are planning an event, exploring the book, or reaching out about the work, I would like to hear from you.